Why Can’t People Just Get Married?
When did weddings become year long affairs that cost friends hundreds of dollars? The engagement party, the shower, the bachelorette party, and finally the wedding…and I have eight weddings this year. If I attend all of the events for each, that’s 32 gifts…and weekends…
It’s not that I’m not happy for my friends. I am really happy for them. I just think that weddings have gotten out of control. It seems that some people forget that their wedding is a celebration of their marriage and not a competition for the world’s greatest party where they can treat people like crap and do whatever they want.
Comedian Thomas J. Kelly of I Hate Weddings has dedicated a whole website to commentary about wedding issues. In one post, Kelly asserted, “If a gift is EXPECTED it is not a gift. It is payment.” A bride responded, “Grow up, stop worrying about every dollar you spend…and try to focus on other people and doing a little something to make them happy.” I can see how both sentiments are correct…except that it’s not just a few dollars any more.
I don’t hate weddings. I actually thought of this while I was writing wedding vows for a couple who were being married by the judge I clerk for. I had never met the couple. They were throwing a $50,000 wedding. They picked flowers, a DJ, a venue, etc., but they couldn’t bother to write the promise they were making to eachother that everyone was there to witness. People should be mindful that their guests are there to celebrate their marriage and that their big day – or four – is not the only thing their guests have going on.